Monday, March 29, 2010

Some Good News

We received some good news today, though not exactly the news for which we were hoping. Our file has been confirmed as having been submitted to court! For those of you not in the adoption loop, that means that we won't have to travel to Ethiopia twice :) I neglected to write about some of the recent changes in the Ethiopian adoption process. In a nutshell, a new rule will go into effect for any family who does not have their file submitted to the Ethiopian court by April 9th. These adoptive parents will be required to be present for their court date in Ethiopia and then will have to travel a second time to bring their child(ren) home several weeks after passing court. We are now assured that we only have to travel once, meaning we don't have to spend extra money on traveling costs and we won't have to leave our little girl in Ethiopia after meeting her :)

The downside of this news is that it still may be a few weeks before we are assigned a court date. We had been hoping to hear any day now, but it looks like that is not the case. I'm looking at the bright side though and that is our file has been submitted! I am relieved!!!

Monday, March 22, 2010


A fair warning, this will be too much information for the casual blog stalker so feel free to stop reading any time. I've been debating for a while whether or not to post about our little girl's medical concern. I know many of you are probably curious, and well, all too soon it may become readily apparent if she needs to have surgery because she will be sporting a large zigzag scar, running from ear to ear, across the top of her head.

Our little girl has craniosynostosis. Craniosynostosis is a birth defect in which one or more of the sutures (fibrous joints) between the bones of an infant's skull close prematurely, before the infant's brain is fully formed. As a result, the infant's brain can't grow in its natural shape and it is forced to grow in the direction of the open sutures, often resulting in an abnormal head shape and facial features. Treatment of craniosynostosis usually requires surgery to separate the fused bones. Sometimes the condition only affects the physical appearance of the head, but it can inhibit brain growth and also lead to increased intracranial and intraorbital pressure. Craniosynostosis can occur by itself or it can be associated with a syndrome that affects not only the skull but the extremities and multiple body systems as well. Syndromic craniosynostosis requires numerous surgeries to correct defects throughout the body and can cause blindness, deafness, and developmental delays.

Syndromic craniosynostosis was one of our biggest concerns after receiving our little girl's somewhat cryptic medical reports prior to receiving her referral. From what I can gather she has at least two fused sutures with the possibility of a third. Multiple fusions along with the specific sutures that are fused in our little one occur more frequently in a syndrome. Even though it sounded like that was a possibility, and a very scary one at that, we knew we could not turn this little one down. We were trusting that God would equip us to handle whatever came to be and would provide for us financially for as many surgeries as needed. After lots of research, prayer, and coming to terms with the worst case scenario we let our caseworker know that whenever the referral was ready we were ready to hear about our daughter. Sara then told us that she had talked at length to the in-country staff that morning and found out that the neurosurgeon in Ethiopia thought it likely that she would not need surgery! She also told us that just by looking at the photos of our girl you could not tell that she even has craniosynostosis. What a relief after picturing in our minds the worst case scenario. Later that day we laid eyes on the most beautiful three month old girl and life as we knew it has never been the same :)

Nothing about her medical diagnosis is certain at this time, and for a woman who likes to plan ahead and be prepared, this not knowing anything is killing me. As far as we can tell our little girl does not have syndromic craniosynostosis. We had her X-rays and CT scans sent to a team of specialists in the US in hopes of a more definitive diagnosis; however, it seems that doctors in the US are a little out of practice when it comes to reading 3rd world radiological technologies. Much to my dismay, they cannot determine a whole lot from the current scans and we now have to wait until she comes home to get any answers about her diagnosis and surgery prospects. In January I wishfully set up an appointment for her for April 20th hoping for a miracle that she'd be here by then. I guess I need to reschedule that.

For the last eight weeks we have been anxiously waiting for news of a court date because surgery for craniosynostosis is usually advised as early as possible and preferably by six months of age. Our girl turned five months old last week. I had hoped that things would move along a little faster because of her medical need. Our wonderful agency assured us that they would do everything within their control to get us a court date as soon as possible and give us priority on travel, if only all the other parties involved were as kindly accommodating.

I just want to take one more moment to be totally honest (if I still have any readers left) and add that saying yes to being open to certain special needs on paper really did not prepare us emotionally for the reality of when we were asked "will you consider this little one?" It is heart wrenching to even think of saying no to a little one in need and yet it can also be heart wrenching to say yes. To know that your child may have to deal with lifelong medical issues or disabilities. To know that your life may look different than you had imagined. Even though we signed up for this and thought we were prepared for it, I actually went through a short period of grieving for each child with whom we were matched, grieving both selfishly and for the girls, for what might await them down the road. I am still very sad at the thought of my newly adopted baby going through major surgery so soon after we bring her home. (What will that do to her attachment?) No one wants their own child to deal with these kinds of things, but the reality is there are children in the world who are waiting for a family that will love and care for them no matter what their needs. At the beginning of our adoption journey I felt God leading me to be open to more than just a healthy, "perfect" child and I'm glad for that. I'm glad for the many ways it has challenged me to grow and mature both in faith and character.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Hand Me Downs

I have a post I've been working on for a while, but it's not ready, so in the mean time...

It's nice to have a 2.5 year old niece who's outgrown her baby things :) There's more stuff not pictured, including more clothes hanging in the closet.

Thank you Charlotte for all the nice stuff you gave to your cousin! You are growing up way too fast!